Waiting Questionnaire {For the Adoptive Mother} – Day 39

Two weeks have passed since I last updated on our adoption process!

We had one paperwork snafu last week. Our social worker received a document that (whether it was accurate or not) needed an additional document stating that in fact this was not correct. So, we had to backtrack and have an additional letter written to counteract that file. Really, it was very minor and all taken care of!

Waiting Questionarrie

How long have you been waiting? 39 days

How do you feel this week? Preoccupied! Cal is being dedicated at church this weekend and we are hosting our families. I have been planning for our very exciting weekend :)

What’s been on your mind? What I will feed the baby! I am still nursing Cal (yes still), for a wide variety of reasons, but one of them is to keep my production which might provide the amazing and rare opportunity to nurse our adopted baby! I could go on and one, which means maybe I’ll just make that a separate post ;)

What are your prayers for this baby? He knew who this child was and that he was intended for our family, long before time; surely He will bring the baby to us in his perfect timing! There is a huge part of me that is anxiously awaiting the call to meet this new baby. Who, where, what, when, why? But I pray that I would be patient in  the meantime and enjoy my two boys while pouring into them all my love and preparing them for their younger sibling.

What are you doing to prepare? Haha, I’m starting to think about preparing the van. When we get a call the mother could be due tomorrow and we might need to drive anywhere in the country for a 1-3 week stay. I want the van jam-packed with anything I can think of that we might possibly need!

How are you taking care of yourself this week? I started the Change 3 Challenge and so far so good. I have spent quality time with the Lord every morning, but honestly, I’m really tired this week. Max has been waking up 2 or 3 times a night and needing someone to come in to put him back to sleep (this is very odd), so even if I got in bed early enough, after reading and then calming down to sleep, he woke up around 11 each night and I had to start my own sleep process over. Freaks me out for the infant stage again – Lord knows sleeping through the night will be out the window and it’s only been happening with Cal for a few months. I suppose I should get used to it!

What have you done with your kids this week? The usual, but Max and I have been doing this new night time devotional together and it is producing some amazingly deep conversations about God.

Nervous about anything? That we’ll get the call and nothing will be “ready”!

Dreaming about/Looking forward to this week: What the baby will look like, what his temperament will be, good sleeper? Lousy sleeper?  Strong-willed or compliant? Who are you little one?

New Baby Items: None. But, I think we’ll probably be needing new clothes even if it is another boy – these boys get things dirty :)

Your Turn: 

What is your number one recommendation for those in waiting? 

~ Becca

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10 Responses to Waiting Questionnaire {For the Adoptive Mother} – Day 39
  1. Shelly F
    October 8, 2013 | 11:02 pm

    Well funny enough i am adopted and i adopted my son :) When people can’t quite put their finger on what is diferent about us they assume it ust be his father… He is tall like me and we actually look alot alike. He is biracial and beautiful.. What I did while i waited (I also had a failed adoption THANK YOU LORD) is pray and read the story of Sarah and pray every day if god’s will be done. Almost 6 years later and sill so happy and blessed!

    • Becca V
      October 9, 2013 | 6:22 pm

      Haha, too funny, Shelly! We will most likely adopt a full african american child, so the differences might be fairly obvious :) What a cool perspective that in hindsight you Praise God for that failed adoption (which must have been challenging at the time).

  2. Rhoda
    October 9, 2013 | 6:01 am

    My number one recommendation for waiting for adopting–don’t pray for patience! You will have to wait whether you want to or not, whether patiently waiting or not. And the wait is agonizing at times. You’ve done everything that needs to be up to that point and “what is the hold up?” But as we learned with our two–God is ultimately in control of even our wait. His timing is perfect, though we don’t “see” it. I guess the main thing is do what needs to be done (which it sounds like you are doing), have your ducks in a row (to the best of your ability and knowledge which I admit is often limited) and let God control all the rest. When the time is right (finally!!!), everything falls into place in the most amazing way. Blessings on your wait.

    • Becca V
      October 9, 2013 | 6:24 pm

      Thanks, Rhoda :) We’ll just keep on keepin’ on and exactly that, rest assured that the Lord’s timing is perfect and well wait eagerly until the time to meet our next child comes to join our family!

  3. KL
    October 9, 2013 | 10:48 pm

    Mine is to find something to do! We don’t have children in our home currently, so I’ve been working on de-cluttering our home in preparation for the influx of baby stuff :) I’ve also been getting some fun sewing projects setup.

    • Becca V
      October 10, 2013 | 6:45 pm

      That is an excellent suggestion; you are completely correct, left to my own devices, I’ll think on it all day. Instead I write and keep up with our home, and enjoy this special time with my two boys (which keep me very busy :) until our new baby joins the family!

  4. Shelly F
    October 10, 2013 | 3:24 pm

    LOL I am 6’0 with blond/brown hair and green eyes — my parents have blue eyes and black and brown hair and 5’5 and 5’7 :0 so we were obvious too :P But I always loved it because I grew up being told we chose you… I always felt special and wanted. And having gone through the adoption process i saw all the hoops they had to go through! And haviing a AA child has it’s challenges but SO worth it!! If you have any questions on hair, etc.. let me know. You can also email me. Have a blessed day so excited for you!! Do you have any friends that have done transracial adoptions??

    • Becca V
      October 10, 2013 | 6:42 pm

      Shelly, hilarious! It makes me so happy and encouraged to hear that your perspective on adoption was such a blessed experience; it is so easy to fear. Yes! I would love any advice you have on general care – looking into recently and following a couple blogs on the topics. I do have a few friends with who have done transracial adoptions and they are a fabulous resource (and I’m so excited to offer those relationships to our child as well)! So glad you’ve read and reached out. I love hearing your story!

  5. Tiffany
    October 11, 2013 | 3:12 am

    I love this idea! I wish I had done this when we were waiting to adopt our son. Although I know many of the weeks my answers wouldn’t be fit to print!
    My advice is: It’s okay to get frustrated and sad and angry sometimes. Adoption is a frustrating, sad, and angry undertaking. But take those feelings to God and let Him soothe your soul. These are His children and He wants them in a loving family even more than we do.
    Good luck in your wait!
    (I found you through Raising Mighty Arrows)

    • Becca V
      October 11, 2013 | 2:27 pm

      Thank you, Tiffany! One of my favorite things I read somewhere was to allow each other (husband/wife) to feel what you’re feeling. We’ll go through different emotions at different times, that is ok, no one needs to fix anything, we just each need space and time to work through them! Thank you for your encouragement! Glad you found me :)